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Just One More?

If I have said this once, I have said it hundreds of times. "Just one more?" I said it when I was two probably and I think it was ingrained at birth.

"Just one more minute." (That may mean 1 more hour!)

"Just one more piece of candy." (After having had more than the proper amount.)

"Just one more exit before we stop to find a hotel." (It's already midnight! And the choices aren't that much better.)

"Just one more dollar and I can get a better deal on this something I don't really need." (spend a dollar to save?)

I ran into some friends at the coffee shop today and we had so much catching up to do but had some time constraints. The conversation continued on and on with a certain phrase interspersed. "Just one more thing I gotta tell you." And "listen to just this one more thing." If we had only had a few more hours! It was quite laughable.

"One more" can be a very "squirrelly" phrase. My 4 year old grandson used it several times yesterday.

He had time to watch limited stories on Youtube. He was told his limits ahead of time.

"Time to play, now. Let's turn it off."

"Aww Mimmy, just one more, please?

My mind said yes, but my good judgment said no. He needed to know that there is a time for everything. It was time to do something else, but his "wants" didn't agree.

In my mind, I asked myself what was wrong with just one more. There really wasn't, but if there are more than one concession made, there would be problems next time I drew the line. So, I put up with the short tantrum and before long, I heard him playing and laughing with his toys as his imagination went wild.

Later, he said that he was hungry. It was almost suppertime and I could have thrown many different kinds of snacks in front of him. There are always stray crackers, bananas, carrot sticks, etc. I made the decision to not do that. "What about just one pistachio," he asked. I drew the line and said he had to wait until supper. I felt a little silly. What would it hurt? Then I realized I wanted a pistachio, but it would really be good for me to wait until supper.

"Keegan, I really want one too," I said, "but I think I will wait until I sit down for supper." He accepted that!

How important is self-discipline? Very. It is so easy to keep saying "just one" but after so many "just ones" how do you reel it in?

Did I say that Keegan, really enjoyed his supper. He valued it because he had to WAIT for it.